I am grateful for my family. My mom and dad raised me to be the person I am today. I am a fighter – from my mom, and a thinker – from my dad. They were good parents. They never mistreated me and I never went without what I needed. I didn’t have a perfect life, but I am a strong woman today because of the obstacles I faced. There are so many kids that are abused daily, but I feel like I was so blessed to have parents that loved me and tried the best they could for me. Things haven’t been easy for me, but nothing worth having is easy to attain. My kids are amazing and I am a happy wife. My marriage was rocky at first, but we both fought for our marriage. It wasn’t just me and it wasn’t just him, so we made it work and it’s so good now. We didn’t give up on each other. God blessed my family!
In the book of Jonah, he didn’t want the people of Nineveh saved, but he ended up obeying God and doing the one thing that he didn’t want to do. He prophesied to the people and they turned from their evil ways and were all saved. Sometimes our life is not at all like we thought it would be. God uses us in the strangest ways, but it is all for His glory. Jonah did what no other Prophet was able to do in the Bible. He was able to get all the people of Nineveh to repent. How many Preachers and Prophets had spoken to God’s people and they mocked or killed them? Even our own Messiah! Those people in Nineveh were grateful that God loved them enough of them to send His Prophet to warn them, and they took heed. Jonah truly saw the mercy of the Lord in that place. God blesses His people! Jonah 2:9 NIV “But I, with shouts of grateful praise, will sacrifice to you. What I have vowed I will make good. I will say, ‘Salvation comes from the LORD.’”
What is love? The Bible tells us in 1st Corinthians 4-7 exactly what love is. Notice that the Bible does NOT describe love as a feeling. It is a specific action. In order to love, you don’t necessarily feel it. We have a society with a skewed idea of what love is. I have heard people say over and over that “Love never fails”. I totally agree with that statement, but most people don’t understand the true meaning of it. Then, these same people are in and out of relationships and have no stability. Their kind of love fails them daily. God is love! God will never fail you! He promises to never leave you or forsake you. Your last boyfriend or girlfriend probably did leave and forsake you.
What do you love? Is it a relationship or drugs or alcohol? Do you put God first or just talk to Him when your life falls apart– then blame Him for it? It’s not His fault, it’s yours. I have heard many addicts say that they “love” the substance that they are addicted to. That’s not love, it’s an addiction. It’s a skewed substitute of love. People are really not understanding what love actually is. Jesus loves us so much that he died for us. He loves us unconditionally. Not because we love Him.
Love is an action. Well then, is love sexual. No, that is a gift that God gave a husband and a wife to enjoy each other. Sex is a benefit of marriage, not dating. Love is not temporary and fleeting. It’s not a whim. It’s not about what other people do or don’t do to you or for you. It’s not even if someone loves you back or deserves your love. Who really deserves love? We are all undeserving. So, actually nobody loves cigarettes or drugs or alcohol. They just lust after them. They crave them. They are addicted to them. It’s not love. It’s an emotional feeling for them. Love is deeper than addiction and sexual immorality. Love endures through every circumstance. Love will get you through.
The entire reason I started writing my blog was to help others, and myself, overcome depression – and stay free from depression. I believe that we must study the Word of God to gain our freedom. I know for a fact that God’s Word never returns void. That’s why reading the Word will help you to overcome any negativity or hopelessness that you are dealing with. In addition, speaking the Word of God over yourself will break the chains that are binding you.
In Galatians 5:22, the Word of God tells us, “But the Holy Spirit produces this kind of fruit in our lives: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. There is no law against these things!” Experiencing depression or hopelessness is an inward emotion. When you start putting others before yourself, then things will start to change. God should always be first! If He is not, then make that change today. When we develop a relationship with our Lord, we will get the freedom we are searching for.
We, as Christians, are failing God in many areas. Loving others is one of the major ones. Love is the first Fruit of the Spirit mentioned because it is the most important. Love is not a feeling, its an action. You love others because you are supposed to love them, not because you want to. What is love? 1 Corinthians 4-7 explains what love is, “Love is patient, love is kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand it’s own way. It’s no irritable, and it keeps not record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.” God is love.
As Christians, we must start walking in all the Fruits of the Spirit. We need to be good representatives of Jesus. The Holy Spirit wants to help us, if we will do our part to help ourselves. We can’t do it without Him and He can’t do it without us. That’s what this free-will thing is all about. We must ask Him. Matthew 7:7 says, “Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you.”
Our mouths can get us into a lot of trouble. If we would just learn to shut up, we would be much happier. If you don’t have anything nice to say, then don’t say anything. Psalm 34:13 (NIV) says, “keep your tongue from evil and your lips from telling lies.” Psalm 37:30 (NIV) says, “The mouths of the righteous utter wisdom, and their tongues speak what is just.”
When we say that ‘nothing is ever going to get better’, or ‘I’m ugly’, or ‘I’m fat’, then we are cursing ourselves. There’s enough going on around us – we really don’t need to be making our lives any harder by saying stupid things like that about ourselves. Speak good things about yourself and others. Proverbs 18:21 (NIV) says, “The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat of it’s fruit.”
Build yourself and others up instead of putting everyone down. Speak positively or don’t speak at all. Learn to bite your tongue if you want to murmur and complain or say something negative. Proverbs 31:26 (NIV) says, “She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue.”
Love with actions and truth, not words and speech.
1John 3:18 (NIV) says, “Dear children, let us not love with words or speech, but with actions and in truth.” We, as Christians, need to be the church. We need to watch what we say to others and how we treat others. Always speak the truth. Don’t sugar coat the issues, but say is with love. If something is wrong, then tell them it’s wrong. You are telling them the truth for their sakes. It’s life or death for them. They need to at least know the truth. If the church wont’ tell people the truth because we love them, then who on earth will? Let our mouths proclaim God’s word and His goodness. Don’t just tell people you love them, show them. Pick your words carefully. Sometimes speaking is the last thing that needs to be done.
We will never be the people that God created us to be if we don’t choose to walk in love. Love God then love each other. If you want to be happy, try loving others instead of gossiping about them or judging them. It’s so much easier if people get along and are able to be around each other without a bunch of drama.
We must also love ourselves. We are made in the image of God. God doesn’t make mistakes so we need to stop acting and treating ourselves like we are junk. We are precious jewels! When we start treating ourselves right, we will be able to treat others right. We don’t need to look like somebody else to be beautiful. It’s our imperfections that make us beautiful and unique. It would be a very boring world if we all looked the same. Embrace your differences. You can then notice that other peoples imperfections are also beautiful.
Start today: Instead of talking bad about people, find one thing to say nice about them to others. Then, go and tell them. Believe me, it will make their day.